I love The Man in the Glass, by Peter Dale Wimbrow Sr.
The most important relationship we’ll have is the one that we have with ourselves. Yet, we rarely spend time nurturing it.
We instead usually opt to chase external validation – markers of so-called success and approval from others.
Both are usually rare and fleeting.
Success and approval from others mean little if you can’t look at yourself in the mirror with pride and respect.
While the poem focuses on how our inner self views us, the relationship with ourselves is a two-way street, and – like any relationship – requires work:
Are you doing your inner self proud? As a coach, I often see clients struggling to live authentic lives, in a manner that aligns with their values. Taking time to reflect on your values and how you live them can be a good first step to improving that relationship.
Is your inner self doing right by you? When clients articulate their thoughts or inner dialogue, it is often clear that their inner self treats them far harsher than they would ever treat another person, involving negative self-talk, lack of forgiveness, and whopping expectations. Addressing this inner critic and getting it on their side is like having a superpower. You can start by identifying self-limiting beliefs in order to address or reframe them.
The good news?
You have full control over your relationship with yourself. You can’t force your parents, boss or anyone else to try and improve their relationship with you, but you can always work on yourself.
